How To Solve The Biggest Problems With Wedding Toast

 

 

 

The Wedding Toast

I recently read an article on Search Engine People called, "5 tips to toast bride and groom" As a wedding dj,  I have seen many, many wedding toasts and I have to tell you that many of them are poorly executed.  What makes them bad is the lack of preparation by the person about to speak and consideration of the audience they are speaking to.  Fortunately, it does not have to be that way.  Which is why I have provided:

 A Few Quick Wedding Toast Tips 

Wedding Toast Tip #1 : Prepare, Prepare, Prepare!!  This is not the time to wing it!  This is by far the biggest problem I have seen at weddings.  There is a reason why public speaking is the #1 fear of most people.  I can tell you firsthand how a person's demeanor changes to horror when I come up to them and ask, "Are you ready to give the toast?"  If they are not ready or have not properly prepared they will usually give a sheepish nod and begin to look over the long sheet of paper (hopefully) or polish off another drink.  You need to gather your thoughts and have a good handle on what you will say before you are set loose with a microphone in front of the most important people the bride and groom's lives. Following the 5 steps outlined in this article is a great place to start.   That brings me to tip #2.

Wedding Toast Tip #2 Cut the fat, keep it short and sweet.  We live in an era of very short attention spans.  Your guests will lose interest when a person giving the toast rambles on to no end.  I have had all sorts of people give the toast at wedding receptions.  From the extremely emotional father who cried nonstop to the emotionless best man who decided the wedding was the appropriate place to share off color inside jokes about the bride or groom.  I have even had people begin the toast with no idea what they were saying and then midway through the toast gain some confidence and repeat everything they said in the first 5 minutes of their toast.  My advice is to keep it simple so you know what you are going to say and it will have the most impact on your audience.  Keep it light and engaging.  Remember, you may not be the only person to give a toast.  So speak about your experience with the bride or groom so you and the next speaker will not be repeating the same stories.   

Do you have any advice or horror stories to share about the wedding toast?  Please share in the comments.